Oct 13 2008
The “Might As Well” Complex
When faced with decision making I have always found that there are several categories to choose from. There is the logical path, which is frequented by many. In today’s fragile society, it is often the “sure thing” that reigns supreme when it comes to decision making. At the opposite end of the spectrum lies the dream. This is the decision that typically only makes sense to you and, with some fortune, a few people surrounding you. Comfortably nestled in the middle is what I refer to the “might as well” decision.
Now, the “might as well” decision can be extremely intricate in nature. It can ellude the decision maker on many planes. This complex has the ability to appear as the perfect logic/dream combination. Unfortunately, it’s not and can’t ever be the dream. Nevertheless, it’s often too close to the dream to abandon on a whim. In analyzing the situation, the decision maker carefully internalizes all of the facts and, with a sigh of uncertainty, exhales a hopeful “might as well.” There just aren’t enough reasons to say “no.” There is too much sense in the “might as well,” while the dream promises nothing.
This issue has perplexed me for some time now. All too often I hear about people who settle for the might as well. Their decision often stems from several ever present fear factors that are often too overwhelming to bear. ”If I pursue my dream, will it come true?” “If I let this opportunity pass will I ever get another chance?” “What do I have to lose?” After weighing all of these and many other questions in my head, I have determined that trying for the dream is necessary. If you never make an attempt to reach your ultimate goal, your mind will be plagued with the aforementioned questions forever. If you try and don’t quite reach the dream, then at least you can record the journey in the scrapbook of your mind as an amazing, and sometimes tumultuous, adventure.
No matter what the dream is, TRY!! Your logical and “might as well” paths will be there while the dream escapes into oblivion. Pursue it with all you have and remember that your dream need only make sense to YOU…. and you alone.
FMH,
Shiri
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My dear sis, eloquence is your middle name. All I could do was sigh after reading your writing…you’re incredibly talented and I’ve always known that but It just hit me again…continue to stir up that precious gift our God has placed in you…out of the belly will flow rivers of living water…girl I’m refreshed!!!LOL! Love you always!
I’m so proud of you!
this. was. GREAT! uh bg! i had to catch up with reading these, forgive me for being ghost for a while. this is so so true. i always try to think of the fact that there are two sides to everything. it’s like “yea, there is a chance this may not work for you,” but there is also the chance that it will. Gotta stay positive and be faithful. good one bg, good one.